Grief And Children

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Sep 212017


I was sitting in a meeting one evening with other parents like me. We were all alumni from ICEC, an organization providing various therapies to our special needs children. The meetings were always moderated by a psychologist who helped us work through our grieving, healing, and milestones. Thank goodness because we needed all the mental help we could summon. You know that saying â€It takes a village?†It does. It takes a village of psychologists and pharmacists to get through such staggering times like that.

Nevertheless, it was quite a liberating group and it was the first time that I realized I could just be myself with no hang-ups, nothing to prove, and nothing to be egotistical about. It was an amazing time of self awareness, all the while dealing with the most traumatic moments of my life. You would think that dealing with all the hurt, pain and disappointment of having a child with special needs would only make me feel helpless, unhappy, guilty, and disappointed, but it was the opposite. I felt relief that Derek is who he is without any need to explain anything.

So this one mom started talking about her kids, how she had one child with ADHD, one with autism and one with some other undiagnosed syndrome. And I thought I had a full house. She went on to explain that her son was born missing several fingers. She was pouring out her heart to all of us when I suddenly burst into inappropriate laughter. It was awful. I felt ashamed at first because everyone was looking at me like I was nuts. They disapproved of my â€bad behavior.†I couldn’t stop, I was a runaway train at that point. Tears started rolling down my face. People started giggling as they watched me explode with the freedom that comes with pure laughter. The laughter was like rockets jetting out of my mouth. Finally I had to stop and explain myself. It took me several times to try and talk, I couldn’t stop the laughing. Finally, I said, â€I’m so sorry, but I’m laughing because if I would have known you earlier, we could have given you four fingers! My son was born withextra fingers and toes â€12 of each â€we had spares!†The room exploded in laughter. The other parents laughed like they’ve never laughed before. All the sadness, grief and disappointment was washed away for several minutes as we passed around a box of tissue to dab the tears of laughter streaming down our faces. It was much needed relief.

The absurdity of that sentence that came out of my mouth was appreciated by this crowd. This is the same crowd that can laugh at things you would never think someone should laugh at. It’s like me saying, â€Oh, your kid’s room is a mess? Let my â€borderline autistic†son come over. He’ll line up all the toys and have the place spotless.†Only parents of special needs children and the friends and family that they are close too can feel comfortable laughing at that kind of darkness. It’s such a sense of freedom that I can’t explain when you can be safe enough to laugh at such serious circumstances. No one is offended, no one makes excuses for it, it is just us â€being†with what we have been given. Our adopted four-year-old son was born addicted to meth. His birth mother used drugs while she was pregnant with him. We recently ran with the kids in a children’s 1K race at a local festival and we joked that David would win the race hands down. We rarely see him walk. His preferred method of traveling is running. He runs down the street, in the house, wherever we go. We laughed that he sized up the other kids running the race, bysaying, â€You think you can beat me? I don’t think so, I’m powered by Meth. I got this thing in the bag.â€

As bad as that sounds, you have to realize, it’s the adverse circumstances that our kids have sometimes that make you stop and think, â€I have to laugh or I’ll cry.†We choose laughter, and sometimes it may not sound politically correct to other people, but I have nothing to prove to other people anymore. And being PC takes too much work. I’m exhausted already.

It’s like my 95 year old grandmother (â€Gagaâ€) said to me after she observed a particularly hectic day we were having in my house, â€Honey, you need to drink more.†Boy, Gaga had a way with humor and that’s what keeps me going †humor. If I can make someone laugh for a minute when they are in the fight of their life dealing with such traumatic events, you better believe I’m going for the funny bone. We have to just keep going and I think that’s what laughter does. It just helps us keep moving through the day. Before you know it, you’ve made it through a few minutes, and then you’ve made it through a few more. Suddenly you realize you’ve made it through a day with less tears than you had the day before and you’re still alive and you’re still functioning. I think that’s what this is all about †finding a way to deal with what you’ve been given and still being a functional, happy and positive human being.

Kelly Seymour, is a mother of three, one of whom has Jouberts syndrome. Kelly on occasion submits her insightful and warming reflections to the Children’s RARE Disease Network

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Grief And Loss Workbook

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Aug 302017

Movies as Healing Journeys by Bill Johnson

When I first heard the idea that movies could offer insight into life’s problems I found the idea far fetched. The idea behind this concept is that people can be so caught up wrestling with their issues — dysfunctional relationships, bad choices in life, addictions, and struggles to resolve childhood problems that perspective is lost. Watching certain movies, we can see how others deal with similar difficult problems or issues. For example…

Someone dealing with being with family over the holidays could watch Rocket Gibraltar and come to an understanding of why going home for the holidays as an adult can be so difficult.

People struggling with the concept of denial could watch the Accidental Tourist or When a Man Loves a Woman.

Someone struggling with the issue of being judged could watch Defending Your life.

Someone watching A Beautiful Mind can learn how the disease of schizophrenia impacts individuals, families, co-workers, and friends.

I was introduced to this idea of Hollywood movies offering healing messages by a therapist, Dr. Gary Solomon, who wrote a book, Reel Therapy. As a proofreader of the original manuscript, and as someone who underwent therapy with Dr. Solomon, I have first hand experience in how this process work.

I found that the underlying dynamic of using movies to gain healing insights sprang from the fact that while I typically protect myself when someone questions why I’m doing something, I relax and let in ideas and experience my feelings more directly when I’m watching a movie. I can also see things about myself in characters in a movie that I can’t see when someone else tries to tell me something about myself. I generally respond to the messenger, not the message.

One of my major issues when I started therapy revolved around being a fixer. I couldn’t understand why someone I was helping in a relationship at the time was angry with me. Dr. Solomon suggested I watch the movie When a Man Loves a Woman, with Meg Ryan and Andy Garcia. In the story, Ryan is a lively personality who brings excitement to the life of quiet, thoughtful Garcia. When the drinking which fuels her fun personality becomes life threatening, they have to deal with her alcoholism. She goes into treatment. When she returns, there’s a scene where Ryan’s children are squabbling. Ryan is dealing with the situation when Garcia shows up. He basically announces, ‘I’m the healthy person here; will the recovering alcoholic please step aside so I can fix this problem.’

I then saw why my girlfriend was angry. To satisfy my need to ‘fix’ her and feel good about myself, I needed her to not be able to deal with her own problems. I wasn’t giving her the time to find and be responsible for her own solutions.

I could only see this dynamic when I watched this movie. I simply could not understand this concept when it was explained to me. I had developed a powerful self-image that revolved around fixing others. When I saw the truth of what I was doing and why — mirrored back to me in a movie, I didn’t block out the message, and I could then begin to deal with the underlying issue of resolving my own problems instead of avoiding them by helping others.

Another issue I couldn’t understand about myself was how some people responded to my esoteric sense of humor. For many years, good friends had asked me to understand how people who didn’t know me interpreted my humor. I shrugged off their advice. Then Gary had me watch a film called The Men’s Club, about a group of men who decide to imitate a women’s support group to see what happens. A man who can’t deal with his feelings sabotages the club. He masks this by suggesting the men go to a bordello instead of talking about their feelings. The character I was asked to pay attention to was someone in the group who generally stayed in the background making esoteric, off-the-wall remarks. Remarks that often made no sense whatsoever to anyone else.

The same kind of remarks I enjoyed making.

I could finally see what I looked like. This realization had a potent effect on me. Since that time, I try to introduce myself to people who don’t know me in a straightforward manner before indulging my esoteric sense of humor.

A third movie Dr. Solomon recommended I watch was Drop Dead Fred. This film took me into painful territory I didn’t want to explore. In therapy, when Dr. Solomon would try and probe where I put my anger, I would not be able to comprehend what he was saying; even though I knew he was talking to me, his words were meaningless sounds. Even when I re-listened to tapes of those sessions, I could not hear those questions. I had some serious body/mind armor protecting me from dealing with anger.

So Dr. Solomon recommended I watch Drop Dead Fred. In the film, a young woman is abandoned by her husband. She returns home to live with her mother and reverts to a more childish, dependent personality. When she returns home, she also finds someone she left behind long ago, Drop Dead Fred, her imaginary playmate. Drop Dead Fred is more than an imaginary playmate, however. When she was a little girl, Fred acted out her anger toward her overbearing mother. While she silently stewed, Fred would smear animal excrement all over the mother’s beautiful white carpets, etc.

When the young woman again decides to be an adult and be responsible for her decisions, Drop Dead Fred disappears. He has no purpose in her adult life.

I never had an imaginary playmate raining ruin on the people I was angry with, but I found other outlets like cutting remarks or passive-aggressive behavior. I also came to realize that in my life I’d swallowed a significant chunk of my anger with large doses of sugar, salt and fatty foods. Watching the movie helped nudge me toward processing my feelings of anger.

Each of Dr. Solomon’s books, The Motion Picture Prescription and Reel Therapy, have indexes that cross reference movies by title and healing messages. While some films focus on one topic, alcoholism, for example, another movie might touch on several issues, being raised by an abusive parent, alcoholism, co-dependency. The basic topics covered in Reel Therapy are: abandonment, abuse, adoption, alcohol, cop-dependency, death/dying, denial, divorce, drugs, family, food, friends, gambling, mental illness, relationships, sex/sexuality.

I’m not suggesting this process of watching movies with healing messages is an easy cure for life’s problems. I wrestle daily with many of the issues I took into therapy. I’m just better at recognizing what I’m wrestling with. That helps me make better choices; or, if I still make bad choices, at least I can recognize what I’m doing and change course.

I believe in this process not only because it helped me, but also because many people in the world will never be able to afford therapy. Most people, however, can afford to rent movies that, along with a guide like Dr. Solomon’s (other books on the subject are available now), will provide them some healing insight into their lives and struggles. And some comfort that we are not alone in our struggles.

There’s also a very practical benefit to this studying this concept. Screenwriters can use the understanding they gain from movies with therapeutic messages to build stronger, more believable characters and plots. Someone writing a screenplay about alcoholics could watch The Lost Weekend, the Billy Wilder classic, to understand the dynamics of being an alcoholic or someone dealing with an alcoholic. Another Billy Wilder classic, The Apartment, has Jack Lemmon trying to climb the corporate ladder by letting executives use his apartment for extra-martial affairs. A great plan until he falls in love with his boss’s girlfriend. This film explores the cost of being willing to do anything to succeed.

Stories that resonate deeply with audiences often have, at their hearts, the issues many of us wrestle with in daily life. Star Wars features an estranged father and son. The first Indiana Jones film features a pair of mismatched lovers. Sleepless in Seattle features a man trying to deal with his grief over the loss of his wife. Memento features a man determined to create a meaningful ‘story’ about his wife’s death.

Take away each film’s heart, and what’s left is a soulless exercise in plot mechanics.

In closing, I want to mention one last unresolved issue I have from my work with Dr. Solomon. When I was proofreading The Motion Picture Prescription, Dr. Solomon insisted that in the movie Harvey, Harvey is an IMMAGINARY rabbit. I insisted Harvey is an INVISIBLE rabbit. Dr. Solomon noted out disagreement in his book. I’m sure anyone who watches the movie will agree with me that Harvey is INVISIBLE, not IMAGINARY. I assume Dr. Solomon has some deep-rooted, unresolved issues around invisible rabbits. I hope someone will make a movie that deals with this issue for the sake of others with this problem.

Bill Johnson is the author of A Story is a Promise, a popular writing workbook, and web master of Essays on the Craft of Dramatic Writing, He’s a produced playwright, optioned screenwriter, and has read manuscripts for literary agents.

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Comfort In Grief Scripture

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Jun 232017

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Grief Share For Kids

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Dec 262016

No Miracle Cure for Pet Loss by Jill Hendrickson

You probably knew on some level that you would outlive your beloved pet,
because animals age so much faster than we do.

But when the time comes to say good bye, you’re not prepared, and it
devastates you anyway.

Blinded by your loss, you grope to make sense of your pet’s passing and to
find a way to ease the pain and heartache. But nothing seems to help.

The truth is, there is no miracle cure for the pain you feel at losing a
cherished pet. We can’t simply short-circuit the mourning process. And, in
fact, it wouldn’t be healthy to do so.

If we try to deny our pain and soldier on as if nothing has happened, it only
drives the saddness deeper and it’s even harder to overcome. You must
experience your grief if you’re ever to get past it.

When you lose a treasured pet, you may ache physically, mentally and
emotionally. You may actually feel sick and want to retreat from life to
nurse your wounds. That’s not always possible. Life does not stop to wait for
us to recover from emotional blows.

It’s really helpful if you have an understanding friend to share your grief
with. Not everyone understands the sorrow people feel when they lose a pet,
so find someone who does realize that this isn’t “just losing an animal.”
It’s losing a cherished companion.

This is a time to be extremely gentle with yourself. Do whatever makes you
feel better.
It’s good to take some time alone, but you don’t want to overly isolate to
the point where you become depressed.

Everything you see may remind you of your pet, and this can make you feel
sad. But the tears you shed are an important part of the healing process. Let
them fall. Don’t try to stop them.

One thing you can do is to send out announcements to people you love and
trust. Letting people know that your beloved pet has died has a way of
touching others’ hearts.

Their phone calls, cards and caring gestures in response to your sad news can
be extremely comforting during a time when you’re having to grapple with the
major change that your pet’s departure brings to your life.

Although you may want to retreat, reaching out can be tremendously healing.

Author Jill Hendrickson recently published the Pet Loss Grief Recovery Guide,
along with three Special Reports: Choosing the Right Way to Say Good Bye and
How to Talk to Your Kids About the Loss of Your Pet. All are available at her

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Grief And Mourning

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Jun 262016

Mourning Turned to Joy by Ann Stewart

Are you going through a period of mourning? A loved one passing away, a marriage falling apart, a rebellious teen choosing a path of destruction for his/her life are just a few reasons to mourn.

The world is so full of violence, destruction and sudden deaths that few people are spared completely. If you’re not mourning personally, chances are you’re somehow involved in feeling someone else’s pain.

Mourning is a natural phenomenon necessary to allow the emotions to be released. Depending on the emotional state of the person, the circumstances, and customs, the duration of grief varies greatly. The longer the mourning period lasts, however, the harder it can be to pull out of it without drugs or therapy.

But, I want to share the good news that there is someone who can heal your sadness and turn it into joy. Jesus has come to comfort all that mourn and to give them “beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they might be called trees of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that he might be glorified.” (Isa. 61: 2 – 3)

Do you know that God will raise you up when you are bowed down and give you the desires of your heart? He will hear the cry of those who know Him and trust in His Word, and save them from their distress. (Ps. 145: 14 – 19)

God is good. In fact, that is who He is. He is the definition of ultimate goodness. There is no evil in Him. He cannot give what He does not have. Evil is personified by the god of this world. As long as you live in this world, evil and death are all around you.

“Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour.” But you, my friend, can rise above it all by casting your cares upon Him, because He cares for you! He will heal, strengthen and exalt you! (1 Pet. 5: 6 – 10)

It is comforting to know that Jesus himself suffered and was subject to all the grief you are going through. Having humbled Himself to come down to earth as a man, He deeply understands your sorrows! (Heb. 3: 16 – 18)

If you have made Him Lord of your life, then you know that Jesus Christ has conquered death once and for all. Rejoice, therefore, that your name is in the Lamb’s Book of Life. Call upon Him and He will give you rest. He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. (Ps. 147: 3)

Go to your Father as a child and ask Him to comfort you. Seek His face; tell Him all about your sorrow. Don’t just assume He already knows it. That’s true, but He wants to have a relationship with you. He does not force Himself in your life, even to bring blessings. He wants you to come to Him and tell Him everything that’s on your heart. He will not only hear you and talk with you, but guide you in all things. Even when your parents turn their back on you, He will pick you up! (Ps. 27: 8; 10)

Trust me. There is no one on earth more loving, giving, understanding, beautiful, wise and ever-present to you than He is. Soon you will be singing praises to Him in thanksgiving for turning your mourning into dancing and filling you with joy! (Ps. 30: 11-12)

Ann Stewart, author of With Wings as Eagles, aims to encourage and inspire you to become the person God has purposed you to be: With Wings as Eagles Who is she? Find out at: As the Eagle. You’re welcome to subscribe to her free weekly inspirational newsletter: Life Altering Words

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Stages Of Grief Breakup

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Nov 262015

How To Get Back An Ex Boyfriend – Techniques by Joan Rivers

If you’re recently undergone a breakup that you neither initiated nor wanted you may feel overwhelmed and desperately trying to tread water in order to keep breathing. Breakups feel like repeated kicks in the gut and learning how to stand up again is a process that must be recommitted to on a daily (if not hourly) basis. If you want to be able to get back together with your boyfriend you must avoid making mistakes that are all-too-common in emotionally charged situations. These steps are meant to take you out of a negative mind-frame and set your course in a positive direction. Added ways you can use to get your boyfriend interested in getting back together with you at the last paragraph of this write-up.

Step 1 – Don’t Put Up a Fight:

During the breakup process, it’s often easy to succumb to the innate desire to fight for what you believe you’re entitled to. This makes a bad situation even worse and can limit your chances of reconciliation down the road. To avoid this error in judgment, two policies must immediately be put into place on your own terms – not because your ex-boyfriend wanted to.

The first thing you have to do is come to a place of acceptance and realize that right now the breakup really did happen and it’s real. There are stages to grief that are often associated with the death of a friend or loved one, but breakups often entail the same emotions. Denial and anger are a part of the process, but they’re not productive overall. In order to get yourself into the right frame of mind to go after what you want, you need to accept that your relationship as it was is at an end.

Immediately after your ex-boyfriend dumped you it may be tempting to text him or call him every time you think of something that you SHOULD have said but didn’t think of until now. Don’t. In fact, don’t text or call him at all. You need to restrict all access he has to you in order for him to start missing you as a part of his life. Guess what? He can’t miss you if you’re always in his face. As difficult as it may be to wrap your mind around the idea that your go-to person to talk to is no longer available, you need to put your foot down – and then commit yourself to a complete lack of contact for up to a month following your breakup.

Step 2 – Dive Into Distraction:

If you want to keep yourself occupied and not thinking about all the time that you would be spending with your ex-boyfriend had the breakup not happened, you need to get up and get active. When it comes right down to it, you’re responsible for yourself. Peel yourself off of the recliner and go enjoy the sunshine.

Whether you’re renewing your love of public libraries or discovering your favorite new city park, getting motivated is an important part of the process. Not only should you be getting out there, you should be enjoying some physical exercise at the same time. With its natural endorphins acting as anti-depressants and relieving every-day stress, exercise is a healthy alternative to drinking a six-pack of beer and consuming mass-amounts of chocolate. No matter what motivates you, get out there and go for it and leave the wallowing behind for good.

Step 3: Reconnect with Your Crew:

People in relationships tend to go through a period where they unintentionally exclude others and focus only on their own little world. If you realize that it’s been too long since you had a night out with the girls, schedule one and join the party. Your friends are a natural and capable support system that’s going to help you through the hardest parts of your plan – and may even be able to offer helpful tips in the process. They can keep your spirits up and your motivation running high. Friends are wonderful distractions for the pain of heartbreak so don’t be afraid to turn to them for some extra support while you’re dealing with the fallout.

Putting these three steps to use is going to accomplish two major things at the same time. First, you’re going to feel better about yourself and look better as an added bonus. Additionally, it’s going to essentially make you more mysterious to your ex – no matter how well he knew you while you were dating. He’s going to start thinking about the fact that you’re not begging for a second chance. For all he knows, you may have met someone else or moved on. Even though he ended things, no guy wants to feel like they’ve been left behind. Since you were able to commit to a plan and stay focused you’ve managed to do the one thing that you thought was improbable – you gained his respect, his attention and his curiosity. What you do with it now is up to you.

Your Next Steps

A how to get back your boyfriend approach is needed at this point if you want to be successful, you cannot merely wing it and hope for the best. Putting a plan of action in place starts with reading up on the male psyche and understanding the signs he still loves you. He may not verbalize how he really feels about you after the break up, but there are clues there that you need to recognize to know where you stand with him.

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Sep 092015

Goodbye Fabio Cannavaro by fansi099

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Aug 032015

The expression of one’s inner feeling by allenking

Life skill or social skill, in whatever manner, one wishes to express are all the outcome of the life skill coaching, which compiles of different types of emotions and attitude. Emotion is that sensation which makes a person’s personality and this is different from person to person, thus we say that all people around do not have the same personality. There might be similarities in two personalities but will never be ditto the same.

Any way since we have stated with the talk of emotions, let’s attributes of anger as an emotion and the power of the management of the same the anger management. Before going ahead with the discussions and the tools meant for managing and controlling ones anger, I think that we must have a clear concept to, what is the meaning of the particular emotion called the anger.

According to Anger Management New York City, anger is an emotion which is related to one’s psychological feel. The psychological disturbance, which leads to the emotional outburst with yelling and screaming and sometimes, either ending with tears or sleepy feelings is caused by, being wronged, misunderstood, humiliated or offended. The outcome of these entire acts is fury, resentment and irritation or annoyance. It is the feel of being wronged or being denied and the tendency to the relation, to any such reaction. To different critics and psychoanalytic therapist of Anger Management New York City, the term anger is described and explained in a different manner, though the meaning says, more or less the same.

Anger is the normal and the very common emotion, which involves in a strong uncomfortable feel and a negative emotional response to a perceived provocation.

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When the provocation and rage is high it can cause physical damage like the increase of heart rate, increase of blood flow or the block of the blood to the heart which is also known as the heart attack, and many other forms of physical aggression. Again to some anger is like a pressure cooker..that is one can only apply some mental pressure on one or again one own self, till we explode and we are free of any emotional turmoil, and once the mind and the brain exploded and any way either through verbally or physically, the nerves loosens and you feel at ease. Thus anger can be viewed as a fight or a flight or the response to the perceived threat of harm.

The emotion that surrounds anger are anguish, annoyance, anxiety, apathy, arousal, boldness, Distress disgust, grief, frustration, hatred, sadness, fearlessness, rage , remorse and all types of mental sufferings.

Now, with so much of pain and agony we can talk about anger management as per Anger Management New York City. Any sort of such mental distress and disturbances has to go through psychoanalytical process, where the counsellors are actually, not only, to ask the questions and answer them, like a parrot. For more information, visit: spiral2grow Marriage Family Therapy, 260 Madison Avenue, #8023, New York, NY 10016 or Call us at: 917-692-3867.

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May 152015

Think Koh Phangan Hotels On A Budget When Your Vacation Matters by Ken Aonang

Travel is something we all look forward to. It is a break in the monotony of every day life. It is a chance to relax and live stress free for a week or two, away from work and all responsibilities. Here is some advice for the next time you go on vacation.

Be respectful and patient towards security checkpoints and customs officials. In most cases, these exist for your safety. If not, being upset still won’t help you get through any faster. In fact, making a fuss at the security checkpoint is almost always a ticket to the express lane for the extra search.

When vacationing in any of our world’s beautiful areas, it is important to leave nothing behind. Do not leave trash of any kind, and do not take any artifacts from natural areas or historical sites. If you are in the wilderness, avoid disturbing the natural elements, for example leave the beautiful rocks where they are. Leave everything you find in these places as you found it.

To get the best deal on popular local attractions, always ask your hotel first if they offer discounted tickets. In major tourist destinations like New York City, it is common for hotel chains to offer discounted rates to their guests. The same is true of family destinations like Florida where many hotels pump up their occupancy rates with reduced amusement park admissions.

One of the best ways to save money on airline travel is to be flexible. If you are willing to fly out a day or so earlier or later than your original plan, or choose another airport other than your first choice, you could save yourself some money. Sometimes airlines offer specials; you just need to be flexible enough to take advantage of them. If you can remain flexible with your travel plans and schedule, you can save some resources.

Select lightweight luggage that has a pull handle and roller wheels. Making your way through an airport can be a long walk and having lightweight luggage that you can easily pull behind will surely save you some grief. Make sure that it will stand up on its own, so as you are checking in, it will stay stable.

A great travel tip is to book your hotel room on the first floor if the hotel you’re staying at charges for wi-fi. Generally, on the first floor you might pick up different signals you can connect to. If you’re on a higher floor you aren’t likely to pick up any signals.

If emergency oxygen deploys while you are on a plane with your child, place your mask on first. Parents will instinctively want to help their child first, but if your brain is starved of oxygen you could be rendered useless and put both you and your child in danger.

If you are traveling light and planning to wash laundry as you go, use your daily shower as an opportunity to wash your underwear and even your lightweight shirt. It only takes a few moments and prevents you from building up a pile of laundry that needs to be washed all at once.

Label your things. You know all of those return address labels you have accumulated over the years? Put them to good use as labels for your items. Stick them on everything from luggage and handbags to cameras and umbrellas. In case you lose an item, it will be much easier to get it returned to you.

Once you decide to travel, how good you plan the trip will help you feel comfortable and be comfortable at your destination. Not only will you feel less anxiety before the trip, but you can rest assured that once you arrive where you’re going you will have a good understanding of what’s going on there.

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Dec 142014

Tips for the Easiest Way to Find a Therapist by Ryanfer

Looking for family counseling and trying to find grief counselor can be a very tough and specific job. There are practically thousands of therapists in any given big city offering different services, making the job much harder. So if you’re trying to find grief counselor or family counseling, you should use an online therapist finder to make the job simpler and quicker. Using online therapist finders are by far the best method of looking for therapists looking for specifics is made much more efficient with them. Here are some of the things they have going for them:
1.With online therapist finders, all you need is an internet connection and the knowledge of your own area zip code. The easiest way to find a therapist is to use an online therapist finder. Using one makes finding specifics like family counseling much more efficient, you only have to know your zip code to find the best therapists in your own area. They make the whole process much faster and accurate. You will find that the best online therapist finders have a search box right on their homepage where you can type in your zip code to find the therapists within or in the immediate area that zip code. Each of the therapists will have individual online profiles where they list out their practice details comprehensively. The easiest way to find a therapist is to use an online therapist finder. Using one makes finding specifics like family counseling much more efficient, you only have to know your zip code to find the best therapists in your own area. They make the whole process much faster and accurate. You can read and find out about details like practice methods, approaches, whether they offer couples counseling, family counseling or hypnotic psychotherapy. You can easily find grief counseling with knowledge of your zip code only.
2.Speed is another benefit that online therapy finders offer you. No other method can be as faster as using them. It totally eliminates the need for yellow pages and other physical directories, and are much more efficient in terms of finding specific needs. You can also argue that recommendations from friends and family is easier and faster but problems about suiting needs or not remains. With just knowing your own zip codes and an internet connection, you can find grief counseling or family counseling without much troubles.
3.Practicing therapists themselves make their own profiles on online therapist finders and actually pay money to reach out to people who need help. The best websites list only real licensed therapists which only makes the whole system fail-safe and secure. So you won’t stumble upon pretenders looking to cheat or swindle you into a deal, making online therapist finders only easy, but also the fastest and the safest too!
Those were three things that online therapist finders have going for them. They are easy to find and use too, so you won’t have trouble finding them at all.

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